Are You a Good Communicator?

By EssentialsMAG motivation contributor SASHA KENNEY

Good communication is a base for quality relationships with others at home, at work and with friends. I don’t know about you, but I think there is always room for improvement.


Here are some top tips on how we can communicate better:

1. Listen more than you speak

There is a good reason why we have two ears and one mouth – a reminder of what is important! Listening is key to a healthy relationship. Research shows that we only really listen 50% of the time. We are mostly waiting for our chance to speak, wanting to make our point. Listening means to enter into the world of the other person, to intend to understand them, even when we disagree with what they are saying.

2. Try to send a clear message

There is a huge difference between just saying something, and saying something with intention. Say words which are meaningful and will drive the point home. Keep the goal in mind - whether you are in a job interview, business meeting or having a conversation with your partner. When you know where you’re going with your words, it is much more likely that your message will come across crystal clear.

3. Make use of your body language

We communicate with more than just words. Everything that is in our heart and mind is expressed through our body, our facial expressions, body language, eye contact and the tone of our voice. All your non-verbal gestures are intuitively picked up and understood by others. For effective communication you need to be able to master positive body language.

Food for thought...

Professor Mehrabian combined the statistical results of the two studies and came up with the now famous rule, that communication is only 7% verbal and 93% non-verbal. The non-verbal component was made up of body language (55%) and tone of voice (38%).

So, go on, and start a meaningful conversation. Use your body language effectively. And most importantly: Listen to understand, not to reply.

EssentialsMAG motivation contributor is Sasha Kenney, Wellbeing Coach, World Record holder, business owner and Motivational Speaker.

Victoria Lee